Bullying

Bullying 

Definition of Bullying 

Bullying is a physical or verbal attack and undesired conduct among school-age children. It is repetitive behaviour. Bullying may cause severe, permanent problems to both kids who are bullied and who bully others. The kids who bully repeatedly use elite social status over the victim to exercise power. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people. Individual bullying is usually delineated by a person behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person. Bullying encompasses activities such as making threats, spreading rumours, attacking someone physically or verbally, and barring someone from a group on purpose. Bullying is repetitive behaviour and has the potential to happen more than once. Bullying can happen  in schools, at home, at work, in online social spaces.

Types of Bullying

The individual bullying can be divided into four types

Physical Bullying: 

Physical bullying involves hurting someone's body or damaging their possessions. Stealing, shoving, hitting, fighting, and destroying property are all types of physical bullying. Often, bullying does not start with physical bullying. It will begin in a different form and later progress to physical violence. Sometimes, young adults will target and antagonise a companion because of some adolescent prejudice. They tease and taunt the victim to embarrass him in front of others, which ends up in physical bullying.

Verbal Bullying: 

Saying or writing the offensive thing that can hurt other's feelings falls under verbal bullying. It includes teasing, name-calling, inappropriate sexual comments, Taunting, Threatening to cause harm. Verbal bullying is prevalent in both genders, boys, and girls: girls mostly use verbal bullying as well as social segregation techniques, to command, control other individuals, and show their superiority and power.

Relational Bullying: 

Relational bullying, also known as social bullying, focuses on banning someone from a peer group, usually through verbal threats, spreading rumours, and other forms of threatening.  Relational bullying is prevalent amongst youth, but particularly upon girls. Physical bullying is evident, whereas relational bullying is not apparent and can continue for a long time without being noticed.

Cyber Bullying: 

Cyberbullying happens through the use of technology by sending instant messaging or chat, text messages, email, and social networking sites or forums to harass, threaten, embarrass, or target another person.

Where and When Bullying Happens:

Mostly, bullying happens during or after school hours. While the bullying, which is mostly reported, occurs in the school premises, most incidents of bullying occur in places like on the playground or the bus. It can likewise happen to head out to or from school, in the adolescent's neighbourhood, or on the Internet.

Effects of Bullying

Bullying may have different effects on differentp people, but we will describe here some common effects…

Ø  It makes the victim feel guilty like it is his/her fault. The victim starts feeling hopeless and alone.

Ø  Feels unfit in with the cool group,  depressed and rejected by your friends and other groups of people

Ø  The person being bullied feels unsafe, afraid, confused, and stressed out

A Man Needs a Company 

Mr Ahmad, a grey-haired man, sitting beside the window, was looking dejected. He was all alone and feeling nostalgic. Engulfed in his past, he recalled his good old days when he was a sturdy young man. He got married to a pretty girl who gave birth to his two beautiful children. He had an ideal family, a beautiful wife and an adorable daughter, and a son. His wife was a family-oriented woman. She would look after the whole family with great care and affection.  He would feel himself the happiest person under the sun. But those sunny days were not permanent.

When his daughter was twelve years old, and son was ten years old, something happened which changed their life. His life partner and his beloved wife fell ill and departed to the eternal world, leaving them behind sad and alone. Now, it was the beginning of a new test of his life. He was devastated and didn't know how to tackle all this. He had to act as a mother and a father simultaneously. He made his utmost effort to fulfil his duties. He would make them breakfast, prepared lunch, and dinner for them. He would help them in their school homework. 

On weekends, he would take them to parks for recreation. He never left them alone. He made his utmost efforts to keep them happy so that they didn't miss their mother. They grew up, and he grew old. His daughter got married and went abroad. His son also got married and got busy in his life. It was the happiest day in his life when his grandchild opened his eyes in this world. After retirement from the job, he used to spend most of his time playing with this bundle of joy.  The cute baby Ali was an immense source of happiness for him. When the child was two and a half years old, his parents admitted him to a Montessori school. His son and daughter-in-law both would go to their jobs, grandchild to his school, and the old man left alone at home.

The time passed with the same routine of the family. The boy grew up and turned into a ten years old intelligent boy. One day, he asked his son that he could help Ali in his studies. But according to his son, Ali's syllabus was hard, and he had obtained a professional tutor for him. His son's reply made him feel like he was a useless man. The grey-haired man was occupied in his memories, but the doorbell halted his train of thoughts.

His son entered the house with his son and wife. The three of them were tired of the routine work. The daughter in law set the table for lunch. The son called the father for lunch, but there was no response from his father. He went to his room annoyingly and found his father on the ground, unconscious, and fainted. He rushed him to the doctor. After a complete check-up, the doctor diagnosed that his father was the victim of depression which stemmed from loneliness. He needed the company of his loved ones.

The son felt ashamed and realized that he was so busy in his life. He completely neglected his father and pushed him in the valley of depression. He planned a picnic on the weekend so that the whole family could spend time with the father.

They went to the beach for the picnic.  The happiness and the spark on the father's face were matchless while playing with Ali. The son was overwhelmed by this scene: the tears were welling out and rolling down his cheeks.

A Thought Provoking Poem

Care for you

In the end, you are all you’ve got.
Your flesh will always be your first home, learn to love and appreciate it.
Your eyes will always be the doorway to your visions, see beyond them.
Your mind will always be your first kingdom to reign, guard it, protect it, and build unto it.
Your heart will always be the first place you get
direction from, make sure it is in the right place
.
You are all you got,
Never stop looking for a better you.

Pour love into your soil,
plant faith into it,
water it with your thirst for more,
feed it with your hunger for change,
fertilize its care,
let it grow roots that will hold you through the storms,
let it soak in the sun,
let it grow in patience
.
You are a tree,
Take time to water yourself

Effects of Positive Thinking and Attitude

Effects of Positive Thinking and Attitude 

What is a Positive Attitude 

Always focus on what you love and not on what you hate,  look for the good in people instead of the bad, and act as you would love to be not as others tell you,  you should, for what we focus on grows and “What we resist, not only persists but will also grow in size.  ~ Carl Jung
Positive thinking and a positive attitude make us a happy person, and enable us not only to transform ourselves, our lives, but also the lives of those around us.

Prominent Effects of Having a Positive Attitude

1.     Hope

A positive attitude stimulates Hope in you, and When others just criticize and complain, you focus on the good in people, and you look beyond the surface. No hindrance can deter you from moving forward. You focus on what you can do, not on what was in the past and what is in the present. You formulate a new reality for yourself, and those around you. You breach the old precepts: and show the world, how IMPOSSIBLE can become I’M POSSIBLE.

Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.

Tena Desae

 

2.     Boost Self Confidence

We seldom stop to think about how powerful our words are and the influence they can have on people’s lives. Beautiful thoughts and kind words when speaking with ourselves, and with others, by focusing on possibilities instead of hindrances, we boost our self-esteem, self-confidence, and the self-confidence of those we communicate.

With the realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world. – Dalai Lama

3.     Positive Impact

A positive attitude will enable you not only have a positive impact on people’s lives by continually looking for ideas to bring the good to the surface through everything you do, but will also have a positive impact on the world we all live in, because when you help one person, you also help yourself and help the whole world.

“Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life.” – Jackie Chan

4.     4. Awakening

A positive attitude makes you help people awake by telling them how much you believe in them and convincing them how much you care about their needs and desires. Most of us live without thinking about what we are doing, and by handling people negatively, your unhealthy criticism helps “awaken the giant within them.” ~ Tony Robbins

“That is the real spiritual awakening when something emerges from within you that is deeper than who you thought you were. So, the person is still there, but one could almost say that something more powerful shines through the person.”

Eckhart Tolle

5.     Significant Living

Whenever you find people doing something positive, appreciate them and tell them how cherished and valuable they are; tell them how much the world needs their unique gifts and talents and how without them the world would be incomplete. Let yourself be a source of motivation for many. Lead by example: and remember that by bringing meaning, and purpose into your life, you will motivate, and help others do the same.



If you've set goals and you want to achieve them, you have to think positively and achieving those goals will be a lot easier. Becca Earl, 

6.   6.  The Endowment of Affection

People search for motivation, they search for good examples, someone from whom they can learn, someone who can stimulate and enable them: they search for someone who can help mend their feelings of fear and unleash their concealed potential. What's more, with a positive frame of mind, you help they find only that.

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” ~ Mark Twain

Your positive attitude and your happy disposition,  loving yourself and following your heart and making your dreams come true will motivate others to do the same. You spread Love in the world, Inspire people to love themselves, love the work they do and love the people around them, and most importantly love their own lives.

7.     7. Happiness

Ultimately, you present yourself and the whole world with the reward of happiness. The time you reach a position where you can embrace the Effects Of Positive Thinking and Attitude yourself completely, you will be content with who you are, and what you have, and you will be able to share the happiness with those around you. The outer world is nothing more than a reflection of our inner world

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” CARL GUSTAV JUNG

With this positive attitude,  you will continually look for ways to invigorate and share your happiness with everybody around you ensuring that you have made someone's life worth living with your positive attitude.